Take a moment to watch this video. Imagine that you’re like the baby elephant caught in the fast moving waters of a ravine. That stream is your marriage: steadfastly moving in a direction that you do not intend to go, at a speed that’s capable of dragging you down with the current and causing you […]
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Movies, as well as books, have a way of making ordinary moments seem relatable. Remember on The Breakup, when Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn had that blowup argument that ended their relationship?Think about the last time you were angry with your spouse. Were you mad because you’re always the one who’s cleaning up after everyone
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Collaborative Roadmap or Settlement Offer? The leader of a collaborative practice group wrote to me the other day, complaining that her membership suffered from a pervasive and insidious problem. She asked for my advice. When she elaborated, she explained that the lawyers in her group have difficulty making “the paradigm shift”: These guys approach the
When you share your child with an ex-spouse, your final judgment of dissolution of marriage is only the beginning of a new chapter in your relationship. Whether you entered into a parenting plan voluntarily or as a result of litigation, you must figure out how to make co-parenting work in the most efficient way, for
Personalities impact results. I always tell people interested in what I do for a living that one of the many reasons my clients choose the collaborative process is because they don’t want some judge who doesn’t know either of them, or their kids, or share their values to make the decisions that will impact their
Who should be finalizing a divorce agreement; the spouses, or the judge? I had a client, John, who had been married for twenty-eight years. He was a portly, but tidy man. He always wore a crisp, long-sleeved, button-down, collared shirt, a pair of pressed beige slacks, and tasseled dress shoes. Although we were discussing a divorce that
The Goal-den Rule of Collaborative Divorce. When the collaborative divorce neutral facilitator meets with the clients for the , she begins by asking them to describe their goals, what they would like to accomplish in their divorce. Then she explains the importance of understanding the difference between a position and a goal or an interest. A
Collaborative divorce is not just for the wealthy. The famous and the wealthy use it, it’s true, because they are clued in to the value offered by the collaborative process. That is to say, a collaborative divorce typically saves its participants money. Keep in mind that professional fees differ according to venue; a lawyer in New
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Stress during divorce is inevitable. Divorce is one of the most stressful and emotional experiences that a person will ever endure. Psychologists advise people to refrain from important decision making when experiencing periods of high grief and stress, yet the divorce process forces people to make life-changing choices as quickly as possible, even when they’re
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There are various ways to get a divorce that don’t require contested litigation. The most common mistake spouses make during divorce is assuming they must litigate. You may choose to handle your divorce yourself, without hiring attorneys. If you haven’t been married long, do not have children, and have only a few assets and liabilities, negotiating an
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